How to Get Her to Say Yes to Sex

Okay, so you’d like to have sex far more often than your wife or girlfriend does. So just how do you get her to change her mind about getting it on far more frequently? Pay attention to what I’ve got to tell you here and you’ll quickly start moving things in the right direction.Plan AheadWe all know we all keep score on each other; it’s just human nature. So while you’re remembering every time you asked for some and she said “I’ve got a headache,” or plain old “no,” she’s got a list of all the times you didn’t follow through on what you promised you’d do. One of the two fastest killers of the female libido is feeling let down by her man – that she has to handle everything herself.So think ahead dude. Do what you say you’re going to do. Don’t promise what you can’t deliver. Every time you forget to take out the trash, don’t call when you said you would, leave her with all the house work when you promised you’d help, etc. etc. your brownie point score dips, and as your brownie points dips so does her libido – in direct correlation. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure this one out. You’ve got to ask yourself what you want more, to sit on the couch a little longer, or to be scoring some? If the couch continually wins man you don’t deserve more sex.Forget Your Own Libido & Focus on Understanding HersListen, we know all you need in order to want sex is simply to exist. No mystery there. But getting your favorite female to that place often is a big mystery. So why do so many men choose to continually ponder their own depths of desire rather than educating themselves about the female libido? What can I say? Men can be real idiots.The second biggest killer of the female libido is so completely understandable that the fact most men don’t figure it out just goes to show how little we want to use the bigger of our two heads. Women don’t want to have more sex when they aren’t enjoying the sex they’re already having. But here’s the problem, because they don’t want to hurt our feelings women do two things that help keep us in the dark about the problem:1. They make all kinds of noises and movements during sex that make us feel like they’re having a good time.2. They out and out lie to us and tell us it was “fine” or “yes, of course they had an orgasm” when in fact they never even got close.Why do women do this? They’ve been raised to think we have such fragile egos that we can’t handle the truth. Yeah, it totally sucks to find out what you thought were your best moves are actually leaving her stone cold, but I’d rather know now so we can fix the problem.Women also lie because our society still has a problem accepting that women are sexual creatures to the same extent that men are. For hundreds of years sex, especially intercourse, was seen as something men enjoyed and women just had to endure as a part of marriage and to have children. Things are improving, but it’s still surprising how many women are totally ashamed and inhibited to speak up about what they need because often they just don’t know what it might be. And you’ve got to face your own demons as well dude, is it possible you haven’t considered her pleasure as important as your own?Yeah, it’s tough to start talking openly and honestly about sex if you haven’t really been doing it up until now – but it’s got to be done. There’s no magic wand you can wave secretly over your gal’s head while she asleep to make her wake up horny – the two of you have to communicate. And the best time to communicate about sex is when you’re not in the middle of getting it on. It’s also best to leave any finger pointing or accusations aside and instead approach the subject with the goal to understand where she’s coming from. True, it can be frustrating if she really doesn’t know what she wants, but if you look at it in a new light it becomes an adventure and a challenge. You can become the man who helps her unlock the door to her secret libido. And do note I said “help” because it isn’t your job to figure out her libido all on your own.Forget Your Own Libido & Focus on Igniting HersLet me be clear here that when I say forget your own libido here I don’t mean to suppress it, I just mean that you don’t have to dwell on it because you know you can count on it. The same cannot be said of women (nor all men, but that’ll be another article). Unlike most men most women have a very long fuse, which is why men need to be smart and plan on lighting it well before they ever want to hit the sheets. Think of your gal’s libido in terms of building blocks with the brownie points you earn as laying the foundation. They’re not, however, what’s going to make her filled with desire – you’re going to have to work harder than that and go on a journey to figure out how to tantalize her senses into wanting to rip your clothes off.What will it take? That’s for you to find out. Does she need to be flirted with more? A little naughty email or phone call throughout the day telling her how hot she looked when she left for work? Does she need to be wined and dined by candlelight, or do you need to roll up your sleeves and prepare a feast to impress her with? Maybe she needs to be taken out dancing so that the music and the heat will remind her that bodies can be put to very good use besides bumping and grinding…